Do you argue with your husband?
I always struggle to answer this question. My parents obviously want to hear that my husband and I never argue. I personally don’t know any couple who never argue, do you? If you are that couple please give me a shout in the comments below. I’d love to finally meet you.
Let’s be honest – most couples have arguments or at least occasionally bicker. My parents are divorced so they definitely argued. My grandparents have been together for 60 years and I witnessed their quarrels multiple times. Granddad’s short temper coupled up with grandmother’s stubbornness is the main cause of their disputes.
Believe me, only a Russian relative can ask this sort of question – really awkward and personal.
Are we not going to see our grandchildren at all?
My mum recently told me it was peculiar that my husband and I had been married for over a year and I still wasn’t pregnant. I was trying to explain to her that London was more expensive than my Russian hometown of 40,000 people. It’s also not very common to have children early in London. Besides, I’ve only recently turned 25 and I still look about 16. I am not trying to compliment myself – it’s just I get ID’d everywhere I go. Even when I try to buy a lottery ticket or go to a Britney Spears concert they confirm whether I am over 16.
It takes me a while to convince ‘adults’ that I am actually married. Can you imagine what their reaction would be if I said I was a mother?
My mum brings this up all the time while I am trying to focus on my career and earn money. My husband and I are planning to have children in the future but not right now. It’s a big, long-term commitment for at least 18 years. So I want to be fully prepared for this and I definitely don’t want to rush.
What do you cook?
The older Russian generation doesn’t know much about feminism. There’s no real gender equality so women are always expected to cook and look after the family. The other reason for this question is me being very slight. They used to think I didn’t eat anything and was on the verge of getting anorexia. So I have to describe in great detail what I’ve cooked for the last few weeks. We call each other on skype every two weeks. And there’s a lot to catch up on but what they really want to know is whether I eat well and what I cook.
Are you being nice to your husband?
Based on this question, I assume it’s okay if my husband is not being nice to me. Or is it only me who they think is a very unpleasant and rude person? I sometimes even feel a bit offended. They are my family and they should protect me. They probably worry that if I am not nice to my husband, they might have me back. Unlike western parents, Russians expect their children to move out as soon as they hit 18.
What do British people say about Russia?
Well, British people don’t really talk about Russia. They talk about Love Island, Celebrity Big Brother, new BBC and ITV dramas and Strictly Come Dancing, but not Russia. Yet this isn’t enough to satisfy my parents and grandparents so I have to tell them that everyone says only nice things about Russia. I guess people really talk about Russia or any other country when it’s all over the news. And you can’t blame them for this as it’s part of an individual’s social life.
No matter what, I still love my parents and grandparents and I am very grateful for everything they’ve done for me. They supported me moving to London and provided a lot of moral and financial support.
P.S. I am glad they don’t understand a word of English otherwise I’d be in trouble.